Team Work !!

Forever Friendship...

                                  I got this mail from someone..

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend;
Someone who changes your life
Just by being part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh
Until you can't stop;
Someone who makes you believe
That there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you
That there really is an unlocked door
Just waiting for you to open it.
This is Forever Friendship.

I am proud to be a Woman ...

The Mute Birds......

 

CAGE CODE

At some shops, the animals are squeezed into tiny containers with little food and water

 

अभी अभी पेपर पढ़ रही थी... और देखी यह तस्वीर, तो दिल रो पड़ा इनको देख कर.. ज़रा सी जगह मैं इतने सारे पक्षी, और उपर से थोडा सा पानी और थोडा सा खाना...

क्या बीत रही होगी इनपर.. किसी  ने सोचा है.....

ज़रा सोच कर देखो, हमारी आँख मैं अगर एक कंकड़  भी घुस  जाए, तो तकलीफ होती है, या ऊँगली कट जाए ज़रा सी,  तो आँख से पानी निकलने लगता है.....चिल्लाने लगते है हम... यह तो फिर भी शान्त बैठे हैं.... अपनी गर्दन को ठीक से उठा भी नहीं पा रहे हैं... अपनी बात कहे तो किस्से कहें.. जुबां नहीं है न.. मगर हमारे पास तो दिल है की नहीं है.. दिमाग भी है.. फिर क्योँ हम ऐसा करते है...

 सहनशक्ति सीखनी हो तो इनसे सीखो... .......

Should women change their surname after marriage ???

"Women change their surname.  Men do not.  Is this a custom or a tradition? "

 My name is Rachna Srivastava...

but now am calling by Rachna biswas after marriage...as i married to Mainak Biswas 7 years ago...

Seven years before, I used to identitfy by Rachna srivastava... my attendence register, my login ids, my copy's front page, my marksheets, my certificates, my freinds, my parents, my relatives every where i identified by this name ... and its much obvious... after my "naam-karan", I was so called by Rachna Srivastava...

   

Our India is bounded by so many cultures and traditions.

Changing your last name after you get married is an old tradition that has been around for a long time and i followed this tradition... but I have seen many girls who still using her maiden's surname after marriage.. but i think its individual choice.

Now a days, many woman using new technique - Wife Uses Maiden Surname as Middle Name Along With Husband's Family Name..

In Short- “trend” is the double-surnames, but I think it is not practical

for example - Rachna Srivastava Biswas... I didnt did it... coz accroding to me my maiden name "srivastava" is too long to fit in middle along with "Biswas" as it also contains 6 letter word....it becomes more complicated...

 Question Arise - Why do only woman change? Why not Men ? I am not saying i did mistake. Infact I am happy. According to me , It looks really odd as someone called my husband Mr. Biswas and me "Mrs. Srivastava".....

I don’t consider myself old-fashioned either. First of all, when you become a married couple, the name change that occurs is a symbol of the couple.  It’s a symbol of your commitment to one another and to “becoming one”. Any children you have will bear that name and carry it into the future.

Recently,couple came to live in D wing in our society and they put their name plate on the door.. Now their name plate become the talking point among various neighbours... Their name plate denotes -  Sanjay Gupta and Chaaya Sinha..... Various neighbours thought they are just living togather but after that chaaya told them that - she dont want to giveup her maiden's name......Chaaya is not the only woman who want to keep her maiden name but there are more n more womens who prefer to stick to her maiden surname name.

Working women prefer to stick to her maiden surname, cos if she change so she also have to change or rebuilt all documentaion like passport, licence.. my case was different as i made all tht stuff after my marriage  :)

But some where i read this line - "Marriages can come and go, but a name change might be forever."...

 So U all give input- wheather to change or not  ???

Yes, I Scare !! Do u Too ??

A Decay Rose, Hair Greying, Skin Wrinkling, Diminish the brightness of eyes, Growing Kid, Dry leaves, Passing Years- all these things remind me only one fact of Life - Impermanence.

It remids me only one thing that - Every thing is not the same anymore, it has to be change like our age. Has this fact ever troubled you?? It troubled me, thats why i am here to share......

Yes, i scare of changing things with passing time and i think its a very uncontrolled feeling. I scare when i see my parents getting older year by year.... I scare when i see myself in mirror that how my bubbly girlish face transform into a mature woman face....

When i walk or roam around mall or market or garden, i see young girls doing fun with their freinds, chasing each other, passing jokes, then i recall my school n college days that how i used to fun with my freinds, did long long chatting, attending school n college periods, did practicals in lab and much more.....but now everything has changed a lot..

Before i went to school, then college and now office.... Time flies very fast....

Have come many changes in me, before I used to much debate, was in anger mood most of the time, but am now runs away from debate, and have become quiet ...... Now the question is - "If i cant control my behavior so how can i expect from biological nature that not to change and remains the same"??

Why do i resist change?? Its simple...It is because i am  afraid of losing the beautiful experiences of life. Love, pleasure, significance, happiness, comfort and other beauties of life that i cherish, i do not want the ruthless wave of life to wash them away. I do not know what the ‘new’ might hold for me.....I am afraid of having biological changes in me like i can easily see few grey hairs on my head, I can watch how my age is growing up... but on the contrary if permanence were the nature of life, then what if pain, displeasure, anger, disappointment, fear, frustration and the whole host of unpleasant experiences continue to infinity??? इसलिए भगवन ने हर चीज़ सोच समझ कर बनायीं है...... There has to be some balance na.....

With the passing time and experiences, everything changes. Relation with freinds, relation with spouse changes, it never be the same when it started...

Ahh !! I should not forget that life without changes is not acceptable. We should respect every changes that comes our way. Wheather u respect or disrespect, changes must come in every one's life, so why not to overcome from this fear and face it with full confidence and happiness.

As u all know that i like Amitabh bacchan. He is my favourite since childhood. So i am citing his example only but it can by anyone's example. Once he came in my office and i attend his show, he came to promote his movie "Nishabad" and by the grace of God i seated in front row :).... That time in questions n answesr round, i wanted to ask him one question but due to hesitation i couldn't ask.. and the question was if i ask: - Sir, Now a days when u watch your film like " coolie, mard, lawaris, yaarana etc... dont u disturbed or dont u depressed by watching yourself??? Disturb in the sense that - how cool, smart n dashing u were looking in your younger days but now u ??  But i couldn't ask....Its weird to aks such question...

But I think, Mr. Big B accept this wide change in himself happily and in a positive manner...

I should understand, infact everyone understand and respect CHANGES that comes our way.. wheather its wrinkling, greying hair.

By writing this post, i am trying to understand myself that to face changes and facts of life in a positive way..

Some where i read this quote - ''The change represents the essence of life. Be ready to sacrifice yourself today for what you may become tomorrow''

One should not forget -  A rose is not a rose if it stays long....  

10 Things which i DON'T LIKE .......

Every entity has its own individuality, has it own thinking, nature, and a set of mind.....There has to be some positive and negative points in everyone... Here I would like to share few points which i want to remove from my personality... Though its very hard to erase it at this stage of life but can try a little bit..

 

 which i DON'T like about myself....

1)  I tend to TRUST people very easily

      
          

  

2)   I am IMPATIENCE

 

3) I THINK too much

 

4)  I am PESSIMISTIC

5)  Being EMOTIONAL 

 

6)  I always think i m getting FAT

7)  Having Ghost PHOBIA  :)

8)  Getting easily PANIC

 

9)  Being SHY and being COWARD, Can't mixup easily

 

10) I COMPARE myself to others and realize that they have ACHIEVE a lot more than me

Well !! Well !! Positive Points Coming SOON :)