Shubh Navratri...

Time Flies..

क्षण भर को क्यों प्यार किया था?

By Harivansh Rai Bachchan.

अर्द्ध रात्रि में सहसा उठकर,
पलक संपुटों में मदिरा भर,
तुमने क्यों मेरे चरणों में अपना तन-मन वार दिया था?
क्षण भर को क्यों प्यार किया था?

‘यह अधिकार कहाँ से लाया!’
और न कुछ मैं कहने पाया -
मेरे अधरों पर निज अधरों का तुमने रख भार दिया था!
क्षण भर को क्यों प्यार किया था?

वह क्षण अमर हुआ जीवन में,
आज राग जो उठता मन में -
यह प्रतिध्वनि उसकी जो उर में तुमने भर उद्गार दिया था!
क्षण भर को क्यों प्यार किया था?

एक सपना..

 

यूँ तो कितने किस्से हैं, जो आज भी दिलो दिमाग मैं ताज़ा हैं.. उनमें से एक किस्सा मैं यहाँ पेश करने जा रही हूँ.....

 

 मैं कुछ 3 या 4 साल की होंगी.. छोटी ही थी.. कुछ ज़यादा समझ तो होती नहीं है...

 

"पन्तनगर (नेनीताल के पास)  की बात है,  मेरे नानाजी रहने आये हुए थे.

 यह किस्सा बताने से पहले, एक बात बताना चाहूंगी, अगर आप किस्सी भी छोटे से बच्चे से पूछें  की बेटा बड़े होकर क्या बनोगे,  तो कोई कहता है,  मैं डॉक्टर या इंजिनियर या टीचर बनूँगा / बनूँगी ....

 

पर जब  मेरे नानाजी ने पुछा की -  

रचना बेटी - तुम बड़ी होकर क्या बनोगी?

तो मैंने कहा - नानाजी मैं बड़े होकर मम्मी बनूँगी.... 

तो नानाजी हंस कर बोले की,  वो तो तुम बनोगी ही,  उसके अलावा क्या बनोगी..

पर मेरा उत्तर तब भी वोही था.

 

यह सपना कभी न कभी तो पूरा होगा... मुझे विश्वास है...

Funny hai.....

A man feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought
she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he
called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there
is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a
better idea about her hearing loss.

Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her,
and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you.
If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and s o on until you get a response."

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the
den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens."
Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"

                   No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his
wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"

                   Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his
wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?"

                   Again he gets no response so,

He walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey,what's for
dinner?"

                   Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"

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 "James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!"

Motherhood !!

This piping plover may look like it has many legs, but it is taking its four newborns under its wing to keep them warm.

8 best moments in life.....

1@ Giving the 1st salary to your parents.

2@ Thinking your love with tears.

3@ Looking old photos & smiling.

4@ A sweet & emotional chat with friends

5@ Holding hands with your loved ones for a walk.

6@ Getting a hug from one who cares you.

7@ 1st kiss to your child when he /she is born.

8@ The moments when your eyes are filled with tears after a big laugh.

LOVE IS...



Old is Gold ....

One of my favourite song from - woh kaun thi -1964

"लग जा गले की फिर यह, हंसी रात हो न हो....

शायद फिर इस जनम, मैं मुलाकात हो न हो...

हमको मिली हैं आज यह, घड़ियाँ नसीब से

जी भर के देख लीजिये, हम को करीब से

फिर आप के नसीब मैं यह बात हो न हो

शायद फिर इस जनम, मैं मुलाकात हो न हो...

पास आइये के हम नहीं आयेंगे बार बार

बाहें गले मैं दाल के, हम रो ले जार जार

आखों से फिर यह, प्यार की बरसात हो न हो..

शायद फिर इस जनम, मैं मुलाकात हो न हो..."

Tips n Trick

A woman comes home and tells her husband, "Remember those Headaches I've been having all these years? Well, they're gone."

"No more headaches?" the husband asks, "What happened?"

His wife replies, Margie referred me to a hypnotist. He told me To Stand in front of a mirror, stare at myself and repeat

"I do not Have a Headache;

I do not have a headache,

I do not have a headache."

It Worked! The headaches are all gone."

The husband replies, "Well, that is wonderful."

His wife then says, "You know, you haven't been exactly a ball of Fire in the bedroom these last few years. Why don't you go see the Hypnotist and see if he can do anything for that?"

The husband agrees to try it

Following his appointment, the husband comes home, rips off his clothes, picks up his wife and carries her into the bedroom. He Puts her on The bed and says, "Don't move, I'll be right back." He goes into The Bathroom and comes back. A few minutes later and jumps into bed And makes Passionate love to his wife like never before.

His wife says, "Boy, that was wonderful!"

The husband says, "Don't move! I will be right back." He goes back Into the bathroom, comes back and round two was even better than The First time. The wife sits up and her head is spinning.

Her husband again says, "Don't move, I'll be right back." With that, He goes back in the bathroom.

This time, his wife quietly follows him and there, in the Bathroom,

She sees him standing at the mirror and saying,

"She's not my Wife.

She's Not my wife.

She's not my wife..."
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His funeral services will be held Tommorow ....

तुम बहुत याद आते हो....

बात उन दिनों की है, जब हम रामपुर मैं रहा करते थे, मैं 6th class मैं थी. रामपुर शहर उत्तर प्रदेश मैं आता है, दिल्ली से 5 घंटे दूर.

उन दिनों ज़िन्दगी कुछ और ही थी, रोज़ सुबह जल्दी तैयार होकर, स्कूल जाना, फिर घर आकर थोडा सोना और फिर पढाई करना, शाम को बिल्डिंग की लड़कियों के साथ घर की छत पर खेलना...खूब मौज मस्ती, किसी बात की कोई चिंता नहीं...

 

सर्दियौं की बात है, ऐसे ही एक दिन मैं स्कूल से घर आई, तो देखा पापा के एक दोस्त और पापा, घर के आँगन मैं बैठे चाय पी रहे थे, पर वो दोनों अकेले नहीं थे, कोई और भी था, उन दोनों के साथ... और वो था एक बहुत ही प्यारा सा, छोटा सा, कुत्ता... भूरे रंग का...

 

मैंने झट अंकल से पुछा- अंकल यह कुत्ता आपका है क्या?

तो अंकल हंस कर बोले - नहीं रचना, आज से यह doggy  तुम्हारे पास रहेगा....

यह सुनना था, और मेरी ख़ुशी का ठिकाना नहीं रहा, मैं तो ख़ुशी से उचल पड़ी, जैसे सारे जहाँ की खुशियाँ मुझे मिल गयी हों......भाग कर गयी, और उसे गोदी मैं ले लिया, जैसे कोई बिचड़ा हुआ साथी मिल गया हो....

 

वैसे घर मैं, मेरे अलावा किसी को कोई जयादा ख़ुशी नहीं हुई...क्यूंकि मुझे तो सिर्फ उसे प्यार करना था... बाकी उसके सारे काम तो मम्मी को ही करने थे न :)  :), मम्मी का बोलना था, की रख तो लिया है.. लेकिन उसकी साड़ी गन्दगी तो मुझे ही साफ़ करनी है न.. तुम लोग तो कुछ करोगे नहीं.....   :)... वैसे मम्मी का बोलना बिलकुल ठीक था.....पर हाँ उसके आने से  सब ही खुश थे....

 

खैर, दोपहर से शाम हुई.... तो यह लगा की, इसको कहाँ सुलायेंगे....सर्दियौं के दिन वैसे ही थे.... तो पापा ने कहा- जो store room है.. उसमें इसका बिस्तर लगाते हैं... पापा और मम्मी दोनों ने पुरानी बोरियां बिछाई, उसमें एक सुन्दर सी चादर डाली, और चारों तरफ लकड़ी के साचे रख दिए.... और घर तैयार हो गया.... मम्मी ने उसके लिए एक बड़ा सा कटोरा निकाला और उसमें दूध-रोटी दी... और उसके सामने रख दी.. उसने झट से सब खा लिया... लगता था जैसे बहुत भूखा हो...

यह सब करते करते रात के 10 बज गए.. फिर मैंने उसको गोदी मैं लिया और उसके बिस्तर पर बैठा दिया, और प्यार करके वापस अपने कमरे मैं आ गयी... उस रात वो काफी रोया, नयी जगह थी ना ... इसलिए रात भर कूँ कूँ करता रहा...

 

अगले दिन सुबह का दिन sunday था.. यानी सब लोग घर पर ही थे... तो यह हुआ की इसका नाम क्या होना चाइये..काफी सोच विचार के बाद,. नाम रखा गया.. पीटर... peter....

फिर क्या था, रोज़ स्कूल से घर आने के बाद, उसे गोदी मैं लेकर खूब प्यार करती थी, उसे छत पर ले जाती थी.. खूब दौडाती थी.. उसके साथ खूब खेलती.. और वो भी, जब मैं स्कूल से घर आती, तो कहीं भी हो, दौड़ कर मेरे ऊपर चढ़ जाता, और मुझे खूब प्यार करता.. वैसे सच बोलूं... सबसे जयादा प्यार वो मुझे ही करता था.. क्यूंकि मैं उसे गोदी लेती थी.... और बाकी कोई नहीं....

 

"मम्मी रोज़ संध्या के वक़्त आरती करती थी....और जैसे की आरती करते वक़्त घंटी बजाते ही हैं.. पता नहीं उसको क्या होता, घंटी की आवाज़ सुनते ही, कहीं भी होता, भाग कर मम्मी के पीछे आकर खड़ा हो जाता, और पूरी आरती सुनता था... और इतने प्यार से बैठ कर, दोनों कान ऊपर करके, शांत बैठता था.. आरती ख़तम होने के बाद, मम्मी पहला प्रसाद उसे देती, और बोलती की तुम लोग तो कोई आरती मैं आते नहीं हो.. पीटर आरती attend करता है, इसलिए पहला प्रसाद का हिस्सा वो पीटर को देती थी.. और बाद मैं हम सबको....   :)  :)"

 

"मेरे 6th class के final exams शुरू होने वाले थे... और मैं maths में  काफी कमज़ोर थी.... पापा रोज़ ऑफिस से आने के बाद मुझे maths पदाते थे... ऐसे ही एक दिन वो मुझे एक sum समझा रहे थे...पापा ने मुझे काफी बार वो एक sum समझाया और बोले की अब तुम करके बताओ....पर मैं उसे नहीं कर पायी.. पापा ने फिर बताया और मैं फिर नहीं कर पायी.. यह देखकर पापा को गुस्सा आया और पापा को गुस्सा आया और उन्होंने मेरे ऊपर कॉपी फेकी, पीटर दूर बैठा यह सब देख रहा था... इसलिए पीटर  दौड़ कर आया और पापा को गुर्राया और पंझा भी मारा और मेरे उपर चढ़ कर, मेरे गालों को चाटने लगा... यह देख कर पापा का गुस्सा भी शांत हो गया और मुझे आश्चर्य हुआ की, पीटर मुझसे कितना प्यार करता है... इनके अन्दर भी कितनी feelings होती है... यह एक ऐसी बात है, जो मैं मरते दम तक नहीं भूल सकती.... आज इस बात को कितने साल गुज़र गए हैं.. पर आज भी यह याद मेरे दिल मैं ताज़ा है...

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पीटर तुम बहुत याद आते हो.... ...........

 

 

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1)  Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!

(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

Team Work !!

Forever Friendship...

                                  I got this mail from someone..

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend;
Someone who changes your life
Just by being part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh
Until you can't stop;
Someone who makes you believe
That there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you
That there really is an unlocked door
Just waiting for you to open it.
This is Forever Friendship.

I am proud to be a Woman ...

The Mute Birds......

 

CAGE CODE

At some shops, the animals are squeezed into tiny containers with little food and water

 

अभी अभी पेपर पढ़ रही थी... और देखी यह तस्वीर, तो दिल रो पड़ा इनको देख कर.. ज़रा सी जगह मैं इतने सारे पक्षी, और उपर से थोडा सा पानी और थोडा सा खाना...

क्या बीत रही होगी इनपर.. किसी  ने सोचा है.....

ज़रा सोच कर देखो, हमारी आँख मैं अगर एक कंकड़  भी घुस  जाए, तो तकलीफ होती है, या ऊँगली कट जाए ज़रा सी,  तो आँख से पानी निकलने लगता है.....चिल्लाने लगते है हम... यह तो फिर भी शान्त बैठे हैं.... अपनी गर्दन को ठीक से उठा भी नहीं पा रहे हैं... अपनी बात कहे तो किस्से कहें.. जुबां नहीं है न.. मगर हमारे पास तो दिल है की नहीं है.. दिमाग भी है.. फिर क्योँ हम ऐसा करते है...

 सहनशक्ति सीखनी हो तो इनसे सीखो... .......

Should women change their surname after marriage ???

"Women change their surname.  Men do not.  Is this a custom or a tradition? "

 My name is Rachna Srivastava...

but now am calling by Rachna biswas after marriage...as i married to Mainak Biswas 7 years ago...

Seven years before, I used to identitfy by Rachna srivastava... my attendence register, my login ids, my copy's front page, my marksheets, my certificates, my freinds, my parents, my relatives every where i identified by this name ... and its much obvious... after my "naam-karan", I was so called by Rachna Srivastava...

   

Our India is bounded by so many cultures and traditions.

Changing your last name after you get married is an old tradition that has been around for a long time and i followed this tradition... but I have seen many girls who still using her maiden's surname after marriage.. but i think its individual choice.

Now a days, many woman using new technique - Wife Uses Maiden Surname as Middle Name Along With Husband's Family Name..

In Short- “trend” is the double-surnames, but I think it is not practical

for example - Rachna Srivastava Biswas... I didnt did it... coz accroding to me my maiden name "srivastava" is too long to fit in middle along with "Biswas" as it also contains 6 letter word....it becomes more complicated...

 Question Arise - Why do only woman change? Why not Men ? I am not saying i did mistake. Infact I am happy. According to me , It looks really odd as someone called my husband Mr. Biswas and me "Mrs. Srivastava".....

I don’t consider myself old-fashioned either. First of all, when you become a married couple, the name change that occurs is a symbol of the couple.  It’s a symbol of your commitment to one another and to “becoming one”. Any children you have will bear that name and carry it into the future.

Recently,couple came to live in D wing in our society and they put their name plate on the door.. Now their name plate become the talking point among various neighbours... Their name plate denotes -  Sanjay Gupta and Chaaya Sinha..... Various neighbours thought they are just living togather but after that chaaya told them that - she dont want to giveup her maiden's name......Chaaya is not the only woman who want to keep her maiden name but there are more n more womens who prefer to stick to her maiden surname name.

Working women prefer to stick to her maiden surname, cos if she change so she also have to change or rebuilt all documentaion like passport, licence.. my case was different as i made all tht stuff after my marriage  :)

But some where i read this line - "Marriages can come and go, but a name change might be forever."...

 So U all give input- wheather to change or not  ???

Yes, I Scare !! Do u Too ??

A Decay Rose, Hair Greying, Skin Wrinkling, Diminish the brightness of eyes, Growing Kid, Dry leaves, Passing Years- all these things remind me only one fact of Life - Impermanence.

It remids me only one thing that - Every thing is not the same anymore, it has to be change like our age. Has this fact ever troubled you?? It troubled me, thats why i am here to share......

Yes, i scare of changing things with passing time and i think its a very uncontrolled feeling. I scare when i see my parents getting older year by year.... I scare when i see myself in mirror that how my bubbly girlish face transform into a mature woman face....

When i walk or roam around mall or market or garden, i see young girls doing fun with their freinds, chasing each other, passing jokes, then i recall my school n college days that how i used to fun with my freinds, did long long chatting, attending school n college periods, did practicals in lab and much more.....but now everything has changed a lot..

Before i went to school, then college and now office.... Time flies very fast....

Have come many changes in me, before I used to much debate, was in anger mood most of the time, but am now runs away from debate, and have become quiet ...... Now the question is - "If i cant control my behavior so how can i expect from biological nature that not to change and remains the same"??

Why do i resist change?? Its simple...It is because i am  afraid of losing the beautiful experiences of life. Love, pleasure, significance, happiness, comfort and other beauties of life that i cherish, i do not want the ruthless wave of life to wash them away. I do not know what the ‘new’ might hold for me.....I am afraid of having biological changes in me like i can easily see few grey hairs on my head, I can watch how my age is growing up... but on the contrary if permanence were the nature of life, then what if pain, displeasure, anger, disappointment, fear, frustration and the whole host of unpleasant experiences continue to infinity??? इसलिए भगवन ने हर चीज़ सोच समझ कर बनायीं है...... There has to be some balance na.....

With the passing time and experiences, everything changes. Relation with freinds, relation with spouse changes, it never be the same when it started...

Ahh !! I should not forget that life without changes is not acceptable. We should respect every changes that comes our way. Wheather u respect or disrespect, changes must come in every one's life, so why not to overcome from this fear and face it with full confidence and happiness.

As u all know that i like Amitabh bacchan. He is my favourite since childhood. So i am citing his example only but it can by anyone's example. Once he came in my office and i attend his show, he came to promote his movie "Nishabad" and by the grace of God i seated in front row :).... That time in questions n answesr round, i wanted to ask him one question but due to hesitation i couldn't ask.. and the question was if i ask: - Sir, Now a days when u watch your film like " coolie, mard, lawaris, yaarana etc... dont u disturbed or dont u depressed by watching yourself??? Disturb in the sense that - how cool, smart n dashing u were looking in your younger days but now u ??  But i couldn't ask....Its weird to aks such question...

But I think, Mr. Big B accept this wide change in himself happily and in a positive manner...

I should understand, infact everyone understand and respect CHANGES that comes our way.. wheather its wrinkling, greying hair.

By writing this post, i am trying to understand myself that to face changes and facts of life in a positive way..

Some where i read this quote - ''The change represents the essence of life. Be ready to sacrifice yourself today for what you may become tomorrow''

One should not forget -  A rose is not a rose if it stays long....  

10 Things which i DON'T LIKE .......

Every entity has its own individuality, has it own thinking, nature, and a set of mind.....There has to be some positive and negative points in everyone... Here I would like to share few points which i want to remove from my personality... Though its very hard to erase it at this stage of life but can try a little bit..

 

 which i DON'T like about myself....

1)  I tend to TRUST people very easily

      
          

  

2)   I am IMPATIENCE

 

3) I THINK too much

 

4)  I am PESSIMISTIC

5)  Being EMOTIONAL 

 

6)  I always think i m getting FAT

7)  Having Ghost PHOBIA  :)

8)  Getting easily PANIC

 

9)  Being SHY and being COWARD, Can't mixup easily

 

10) I COMPARE myself to others and realize that they have ACHIEVE a lot more than me

Well !! Well !! Positive Points Coming SOON :)